79. Problems and Solutions ( in life).

Life is really very funny. Its unlike a machine. All machines of one species are alike. There are treated similarly, behave similarly and are maintained similarly. That is how it seems. But within that, there could be hell of a lot of differences. Somebody’s TV can work for 12 years and the same brand may work elsewhere for only few months. Life is a name and a game of paradoxes or illogicity, believed  to ‘not’ so. Though nothing can be taken for granted and always, everything is taken for granted, being the ‘basis’ of problems. This is life, paradoxical and true.

Problems ( experienced in life) is a situation. Normally one thinks that life’s problems are solvable (but at most it is soluble).  Only, one has to be smart at it –( finding the right solutions) . That’s what he thinks. When the smarty, is unsuccessful, he may hear a remark from ‘another’ , that he was ‘extra-smart’. It is, as if, smartness is in the ‘finding’ the right ‘feel’ , where one can extend his smartness to the limit, just short of being extra-smart.

But, problems are just an experience. It has to pass. It passes too, unless you want to ‘hold’ on to the memory of the problem for ever and keep it alive, which is what is generally seen happening.

I was operating a mechanical workshop and the supervisor scolded a guy, whose was  a driver, for doing some engineering job. He told him, do the job that you are paid for. Now being a jack of all trade, the supervisor asked his assistance in custom clearance, which was his expertise, and he replied ‘ I am not paid for it’. We lost the order, that day. After a few days, it was again, the supervisor’s turn to find fault and the game went on. Now, it was easy for me to employ drivers rather than supervisors and so had to get around the driver. After, telling him, that he was using the problem of being humiliated, again and again, instead of getting over with it, I offered him ‘allow’ him ‘slap’ the supervisor and complete the anti- humiliation. They hugged each other and laughed it over.

So, was the problem solved or was the problem seen at its ‘face value’ as not a problem?.

Most of the times, our problems are related to a ‘sense’ of Power. It can come with money, groupism, health or whatever. Being in a situation with all the ‘goodies’ is a feel of ‘no-problem’ and being in line with not so goodies or the ‘badies’ is regarded or believed to be, as if, ‘facing problems’

The catch is in the word ‘facing’ problem. When problems are experienced, they are not faced. They are fought. You fight for betterment of money, health, friendship or being in a group, beauty, glamour, etc etc etc. The fighting is itself the problem. When the fighting stops, it is imagined to be the solution of the problem. When you have less money, you fight or struggle for more and when you face the fact, that more will never happen for now, you surrender to ‘live’ little poor. Solution is found when living in the ‘situation’ and ‘problem’ is experienced as ‘struggle’ to ‘get’ more.

‘Fighting’ a situation is THE PROBLEM that we generally ‘face’ and ‘facing’ the situation is what brings about dissolving of the problem. So only in the case of ‘mechanical’ or machines, a ‘no problem zone exists and a problem zone exists, However ‘solution’ is just brain invented word, that only re-enforces an ‘entity’ that exists as a ‘solver’ of unresolved situations.

Suppose your leg is cut or your partner dies, there is an instant ‘problem’. After few years, life goes on and there is no talk about this problem, as,  it is not ‘focused’ any more as problem or no-problem. Same with ‘money’, power, health etc. One doesn’t get back the damaged leg or dead partner. The gravity that ‘was’ when the problem was envisaged, is now experienced with less ‘gravity’  or burden. The mental fight for ‘better’ terms, regarding the original problem just passes over. However, one does explain, for always being right, that ‘time’ is a healer. There never was anything called ‘time’ or the ‘sufferer’ existing independently the ‘knowing’ that we are.

‘Apparent’ problematic situations arise and apparently it is ‘seen’ as less problematic from a different angle. Problems are only experienced or not and never ever gets really solved, other than being imagined so.

Problems and solutions are like looking at what is happening as  a mechanism of ‘cause and effect’. It doesn’t really exist as two ‘things’ independently.  Problem is not seen any more as problems so left alone. Experiences labelled as ‘problems’ are just like any other experiences. It comes and goes or  better labelled as ‘keep passing by’. Fighting to overcome problems is futile. The fight itself being the problem, other than which, there wasn’t one at all. It can really drain you out, if believed that problems ‘must’ be solved and not faced.

Many times you may be boycotted among friends or relatives and find yourself sulking. But being thoroughly absorbed in being individually left alone, welcomes any such boycott as a boon ( like a husband happy that the wife is not at home). Such person may feel a crowd as a problem.

Wisdom is in facing the situation or just flowing with the situation, knowing fully well, nothing ever happened.’ and allowing the experience to be faced and analysed fully, as if experimenting ‘how’ and ‘where’ a problem is felt to the body. What is depression, how does that energy play with the body, how it travels, intensifies and dies out, may be more enjoyable. This actually takes the sting out of the very label of anything being a problem.

So living a situation is a ‘no-problem’ and fighting a (hopeless) situation is an apparent problem. There are no solutions. So don’t get ‘involved’ in ‘solving’ life situations. You can love the company of people, but don’t ever imagine to ‘be savoir’ or solver of their problems. There aren’t any. There are as much success rates as failures and so nothing is true. Just ‘live’ to experience an experience for what ever it ‘feels’ to be. Life is just a ‘series’ of experiences and not situations to ‘somebody’.